Have you ever looked at some part of your life, noticed that in general there is a tremendous amount of support and joy and love and appreciation and then noticed that there is this one other little niggling, annoying, or even “disastrous” element that just doesn’t match all of the rest of the goodness that you have access to?

After beginning this post, I decided to see if my favorite Abraham-Hicks oracular website (a new quote refreshes every seventeen seconds), Sun Angel had any poignant quotes to offer.

And they did.

“Let’s say that you have been flowing positive Energy and you’re feeling quite good about how things are going, and all of a sudden someone in your experience makes you outrageously mad. Then what?

Bless that one, because what they are doing is pointing out to you that you’ve got a vibration in there that you haven’t quite resolved. They are sort of reflecting back to you something…

They’re shining a spotlight on a vibration. Because if you didn’t have the vibration, they couldn’t be there doing what they are doing. In other words, it’s only Law of Attracting. There is no such thing as law of assertion.

So you find yourself not wanting to blame them for the negative emotion that you’re feeling but actually praise them and appreciate them for the negative emotion that they have caused you to have — because they are shining a spotlight on a vibration you don’t want. They are shining a spotlight on something that’s a little bugaboo that’s going to haunt you for the rest of your life unless you transmute the Energy.

“Thank you, friend,” you will say, “thank you for being so ornery in my life, because you have reminded me clearly of what I do not want.” That’s a left-handed compliment if we’ve ever heard one.”
– Abraham-Hicks –

I mean, Oracular or what!?!?! This is just what I was asking for, and I got it!

I could go on on this subject for a while now. But this is so succinct that I need not bother! Just a little bit though, or I will have missed an opportunity to play with it a little bit.

It was this particular sentence that I finally got last week. “what they are doing is pointing out to you that you’ve got a vibration in there that you haven’t quite resolved. ”

This is a very powerful idea, and I cannot tell you how many times I have heard them say that, but it didn’t stick until I was absolutely unequivocally serious about understanding and owning MY accountability in a particular situation.

The only way that we can get real with ourselves is to take full accountability for who we are and the choices we make––for the way that we create the reality of our experience.

We must get very intimate with ourselves in order to be fully accountable.

And then we must be ruthless in the nurturing of our own heart.

Once we stop long enough to nurture the true vulnerability of our heart, we notice just how tender we need to be with it.

I have been pretty good about the surface accountability part. But without the intimacy, and the attention to getting home from the ego trip, what is “accountability” really anyway?

I can walk around with the “Idea” that it is me who draws my experiences, and I can even be clear about some of my misjudgments. But until I listen to my inner guidance for real for real, I am spinning my wheels. And just a little bit too hard to pull myself out of the ditch.

And it took getting stuck in a pretty deep ditch this time, for me to understand myself enough to get out of it.

The first stage of being accountable is recognizing that it is even a possibility. Do you ever hear or feel yourself say––Well, it is my fault because I made the choice to let that a@*hole close to me. Of course it is my fault, I was stupid enough to let them in.

In the beginning stages of coming accountable, most of us don’t really want the responsibility. It is our habit to shift the blame for our hurt and pain on to someone else. And because we are so used to such practices, we become masters at shuckin’ and jivin’.

If you really want to get to the bottom of it, you have to peel off the layers, one, or a few, at a time.

Let’s get intimate for a minute…

As I look around at my life, I could say that I have everything I need, and I do… But there is something, just a little something wrong. Like a pebble in my shoe that I have been denying is even there in order to get through the next moments before they are gone.

It is like I have been living with this little ache and if I could just address it, I would be unstoppable.
It had been there so long that I was numb to it. It was as though my foot had grown around the pebble to accommodate its presence in my shoe.

And this is a big one for most of us, we will hobble around in pain, doing any and everything we can to avoid having to take responsibility for it being there in the first place.

Let’s play with some questions following a simple concept,

That person made me feel a way I don’t want to feel. (First of all if I am very aware that I made me feel how I feel in response to them, their actions, the situation etc, so I am ahead of the game right there, just not far enough)

Well why did I call them into my experience? because now I feel exhausted, I feel misunderstood, I feel violated, I feel sad.

 is it possible I was feeling all of those things without being in relationship with them until someone came to show me in a more visceral way?

Is it possible that whoever may have come into my life to reflect a painful feeling or experience, is my own inner being inviting someone else to highlight the message it’s been trying to express without my listening?

For how long, on subtle levels, has my been trying to tell me that I have been treating myself the very way this person is now treating me?

How often do I abandon my spirit? How am I speaking to myself? How powerful are those limiting beliefs? How deprecating is my self talk?

These are the questions I am beginning to ask myself when I am feeling imposed upon by someone else…

I always up to play with these ideas in conversation… hit me up!