“The emotion you feel is always about the vibrational variance between where you want to be and where you are. If you’re out of balance, there are only two ways to bring yourself into alignment: Either raise your expectation to match your desire—or lower your desire to match your expectation.”

–Abraham-Hicks

That quote inspired such a flow… Check it out below…

Q:
I always find myself getting back to the same meditation. That place where i can be  restive and appreciate life on a lower expectational level. But I always desire more excitement and expectation.

Rach:
Right, you are such a perfect example of raw human experience,  which is — what’s next? what’s more? what else can I do? what else can I see? By living in those questions we encourage the flow of life force. Society tells you that there is something very wrong with that, and there is nothing wrong with that. The societal norm is that you’re supposed to cut yourself off from all of that desire and zest for life––conform, constrict and choke it–– solidifying disbelief in your innate knowing that you do have the right to move through life freely. You don’t have to get smaller because you don’t believe you can be big.

Q: We go through life feeling like we don’t have the reigns.

Rach: The reigns. Yes… but you do. Your desire is like the horse. The thing about the reigns is that you hold them and you can either let the horse gallop

or you can hold it back to a canter

or you can trot

or you can meander up the trail slowly

or you can lock it in the stall

or you can put it to pasture

or you could never get on it in the first place…

In other words, you can relate to your desire and the allowance of it’s fruition in so many ways… Why, when we have so many choices about life, do so many people become low energy, slow moving desir-ers? Why do we choose to wants less, so the practice of not letting themselves have it doesn’t net so much pain? Hmmmm…. Want only what you can believe you can have––based on what you’ve always believed? That is a boring sad life unless, of course, you believe you can find joy in any experience!!

When I got on a horse after 20 years, I really wanted to fly, but I wasn’t sure if I was able to keep the horse under control, given the circumstances, and it had been 20 years, I didn’t even be sure if I was going to be able to stay on it. So instead I had the most glorious time holding those reigns, keeping that horse in check, and I found out that I can handle a horse, and now feel very confident about getting back on a horse in the future and fucking galloping!

Q: So you felt the exhilaration of running across the beach? With the wind in your hair and the sand beneath you and the speed of the horse? Just from sitting? That’s great!

Rach: Totally. I want to play with this analogy for a minute. Its good shit.

So, you go to that place where you feel comfortable, which is like, “I can wait, I can be still, I can want a little bit less because it’s the peaceful place that I can get to.” Versus wanting all this shit and not being able to access it. Right? It is just easier to not want anything.

When you want something and you don’t believe you can have it–it’s painful.

If you can––during that time that you’re sitting back and choosing to want less––still hold the expectation that you can have it, and also enjoy the expectation of it’s eventual arrival…. Then that meditation becomes beneficial for you.

So… I’m on the horse and all I want to do was get to the beach and gallop along the ocean beside these crazy waves. They are so rough that you can’t even get in to the water there– but you can ride a horse on that beach! that’s what that beach is for!!!

I was so ready. We’re heading for the beach and I’m Psyched!! I’m going to gallop on the beach!! I felt like a little kid. But  Jenny’s horse was super wild and ready to go, but was too crazy to let her. Jenny was just circling the horse back behind us, to let her know she was boss.  Meanwhile my horse feels the tension, and was like I want to play too let’s go!! And I’m thinking no way. If I let my horse go then Jenny’s horse  is going to take off too and maybe I won’t be able to control what happens. And since I had not been on a horse in 20 years, I figured I should hold back this time.

I wasn’t confident in my ability to really manage my horse if i let her go — stopping it when I needed to, or even holding on for that matter.

I made the decision to curb this horse from taking off and no, I am not going to get to fucking fly across this beach, but I totally have the power and control and comfortable space to tell this horse that is not going to gallop today. And that the coolest thing ever!!

I still got it baby, I DO have the confidence that I can keep control of a horse, I CAN get on another one, and we will gallop!!!

I was on a horse and I have been dying to get on one. I was on the beach that I’ve been dying to get on. I wasn’t ready to gallop yet. But because I knew that I could make that decision, because I knew that I could tame the horse,  and I knew that I could have another opportunity in my life to gallop on a horse,  I was good. It was still an incredibly enriching wonderful ride and I wasn’t even sore the next day.

But if I had taken the stance of:having been slighted–”I don’t get to have my perfect moment because Jenny’s horse is trying to run, therefore my horse has to be curbed too!?!”, or  “I finally get on a fucking horse, and I can’t run down the beach?” or “Yeah I got on a horse but we just took a leisurely stroll and I didn’t get to gallop across the beach like I had wanted to.” or “This sucks! I feel slighted. Damn that crazy horse and damn this experience”––I would have done just that, damn that experience. Instead, because of how I related to being on the horse that day, I feel like I’m ready to get on another horse!!

Of the many ways that could have gone, ponder those two options of how to present an experience to oneself…

Look for the nourishing aspects of every moment. Winnow the experience for the pith of it.

If it doesn’t feel good it is not the fault of the experience or anyone else. The choices we make about how to experience the experience determine how we live it. There is opportunity for beauty everywhere, and choosing less of that beauty means that we only have access to less beauty.

I encourage you to let yourself reach for a little bit more than the daily grind. To allow yourself to reach for something even a tiny bit better than you believe you can have.